I have always been more a lurker than anything else - having read Mo for years and years and visit some of her more mentioned friends blogs... I just wanted to let you know that I'm sending all the strength and luck that I can muster. I hope it all comes right for you soon.
Demery, I've been told over and over by a very wise man to wait for someone to ask for my help instead of always rushing in and trying to solve things when that isn't exactly what they needed. I have no idea how I can help you, but if there is ANYTHING--ANY ANY ANYTHING--I have it is yours. Ditto if there's anything I can do for you...consider it done. I just need for you to say it.
Please know how close I'm holding you in thought and prayer. I love you.
Since I believe I'm that very wise man of which Mo speaks, let me clarify something. I told HER to wait until others have asked her for help, because SHE was taking everyone's refusals of help too personally. She hears silence after offering assistance, and that tore her up inside. Also, she would willy-nilly send off money and supplies to people in need, while she herself starved and went without. It took a lot of guidance, but I finally convinced her she needed to wait until asked, and then (hopefully!) she can stand back and make a more rational decision on how the help is to occur.
That being said, I still do believe that people need to be brave enough to ask for help, because many people wait until asked. I don't know if wise people have advised them to do so, but that's how it is, Demery. I'm unsure if you are asking for help, but your blog posts seem to indicate a very great need for it. You need to swallow your pride and let go. Ask for help. There are friends abounding for you, and while they may not have the help to give, perhaps they have information to share, resources to give you. There's HUD for housing help. Call them. There's counties for temporary assistance, and I think you should call them. There's help for you, and my advice--not asked for, which goes against my grain so I apologize in advance!--is to drop everything and call people.
And for God's sake call Mo and give her a task. I can tell she's chomping at her bit, dying to leap in and slay dragons and piss on their carcasses for you. I feel like I've clipped her wings, but I did it to save her heart. Remember, there's no shame among friends. You need help, and you need to allow people in and ask them what they can do for you.
Hugs!!
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ReplyDeleteI have always been more a lurker than anything else - having read Mo for years and years and visit some of her more mentioned friends blogs... I just wanted to let you know that I'm sending all the strength and luck that I can muster. I hope it all comes right for you soon.
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ReplyDeleteThinking of all of you and wishing I could DO something! My heart is aching...
Demery, I've been told over and over by a very wise man to wait for someone to ask for my help instead of always rushing in and trying to solve things when that isn't exactly what they needed. I have no idea how I can help you, but if there is ANYTHING--ANY ANY ANYTHING--I have it is yours. Ditto if there's anything I can do for you...consider it done. I just need for you to say it.
ReplyDeletePlease know how close I'm holding you in thought and prayer. I love you.
Since I believe I'm that very wise man of which Mo speaks, let me clarify something. I told HER to wait until others have asked her for help, because SHE was taking everyone's refusals of help too personally. She hears silence after offering assistance, and that tore her up inside. Also, she would willy-nilly send off money and supplies to people in need, while she herself starved and went without. It took a lot of guidance, but I finally convinced her she needed to wait until asked, and then (hopefully!) she can stand back and make a more rational decision on how the help is to occur.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I still do believe that people need to be brave enough to ask for help, because many people wait until asked. I don't know if wise people have advised them to do so, but that's how it is, Demery. I'm unsure if you are asking for help, but your blog posts seem to indicate a very great need for it. You need to swallow your pride and let go. Ask for help. There are friends abounding for you, and while they may not have the help to give, perhaps they have information to share, resources to give you. There's HUD for housing help. Call them. There's counties for temporary assistance, and I think you should call them. There's help for you, and my advice--not asked for, which goes against my grain so I apologize in advance!--is to drop everything and call people.
And for God's sake call Mo and give her a task. I can tell she's chomping at her bit, dying to leap in and slay dragons and piss on their carcasses for you. I feel like I've clipped her wings, but I did it to save her heart. Remember, there's no shame among friends. You need help, and you need to allow people in and ask them what they can do for you.
Always keeping you in prayers,
Mike